We have a child (10) and she has anxiety already, I’m sure it is because of things she was exposed to in her younger years.
She saw him in a rage, smash my phone, talk to me like shit, saw me upset although I tried my best to hide it in front of her, she remembers not being picked up from a childcare setting because I was in another town working for the day, and he was asleep at home (I had to get the neighbour to come and wake him up). I truly hope she doesn’t remember as much as I think she can, but I see her stand up for me in minor disputes now, and then I can remember her comforting me when she was so young and she just knew something was wrong even though I had shielded her as much as humanly possibly living in the same house.
What a mess they leave. Hopefully now 2.5 years in, the good memories will outweigh the bad and she will begin to forget.
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