a quick reply from me x
yes… you can get past this up to a point but it won’t be easy. you have to really love someone to be able to come through this together. the addict needs to do the work though, otherwise we are at risk of enabling them.
a lot of addicts think they can stop but in reality it’s not that straightforward.
i would honestly recommend drug testing on a routine basis because it takes the accusatory mood out of it… and then you know for sure one way or the other. it avoids a lot of awkward suspicion.
in terms of getting clean… 1.5 years is a relatively short period to be using this drug… some put away 30+ years. my husband was secretly using for 2.5 years. it basically means that the longer the habit has persisted, the harder it will be to break it.
some manage alone, or with suppprt from loved ones. i made my husband go to ca. it did him a world of good and woke him up to the kind of person he has been. it took the weight off my shoulders.
one more thing though…. this discovery has probably knocked you for six! please remember to take great care of yourself over the coming weeks – you might feel okay some days but others completely on the floor and devastated.
we’re all in this boat together and you are not alone xx