continued… yes… we do have kids… two together ages 11 and 14.. plus he took on my other two who are agrs 23 and 28… 28yr old has two daughters. we have been together 19 years and married 15 next month. in answer to your question… no i don’t think i would have stayed… but… it was the pressure of family life and running a business that gave him a massive chip on his shoulder… that’s why he started. And he has always had temper issues and various problems. i think he has undiagnosed adhd. We were going to the rocks before he started and that’s what made it easy for him to disrespect me the way he has.
I wouldn’t have stayed with him anyway apart from the kids!
However when he did the 12 steps he learned what a total ar$eh0l3 he has been all his life. He’s left a trail of destruction. He also met people (recovering addicts) who have had it really, really tough… he has led an easy life, yet he’s always carried this huge chip on his shoulder. It was an eye opener.
However his behaviour still csn be problematic. It’s a work in progress.
I am always on guard but at least i know the drugs aren’t a threat.
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