well that is of course the million dollar question!
however what i can say is this: if you’re relationship was good before the drugs and you had a good future planned, and your partner wants to make amends and give you that future it’s worth staying for a while. You won’t know if you don’t try.
But…. all too often these addicts just can’t help their behaviour and there has to be a point where we can jump off the sinking ship before it drags us under. Where that point is will be an entirely personal choice, and it will be a difficult, painful choice too, especially if kids/mortgage/etc involved. You have to do what is right for you, and sometimes that will involve drawing a line and cutting free.
I will do exactly that if i ever discover my husband has been up to his old tricks, and if he doesn’t keep his behaviour on track.
I think he became complacent recently and that’s how his behaviour started to slip. He’s had to go back to the drawing board a bit. Remember his 12 steps etc.
I did some research when he had been horrid last month, and i think if we part ways i will get a decent divorce settlement. This is a huge relief to me as i no longer feel trapped where i don’t want to uproot the kids.
We shall see x
Hope everyone is ok this week and our addicts are going the right way!!! ????