Thanks for your reply – sorry to hear you are in this situation too!
The come downs are horrific aren’t they? I’m the same, always to blame and as you say don’t get to look after myself either and it really does affect you after a while.
I think the empty promises and the hoping they will give up is just so difficult – the way they act and decisions they make are totally out of our control and it’s so hard to deal with and frustrating because it impacts the whole family in various ways! Just wish I had the answers.
I feel like this about the moods too – never know if it’s going to be a good day where he is feeling ok or absolutley hurrendous! Feel like I’m always worrying if he has done it, always looking out for the signs and it’s just taken the enjoyment out of everything because I can’t relax and feel like my whole life revolves around it.
Always think back around the times before he started doing it, just hoping and wishing it will go back to that but to be honest I think I am wishful thinking unfortunately!
Has your partner been doing it for a long period of time? I find it so hard because I don’t really speak to anyone about it and try to hide it all the time which obviously doesn’t help how I’m feeling.
Thanks