I’m going through to same thing, I’ve been with my husband for 7 years. I had no idea he was taking cocaine until our son was born in 2017. I threatened to kick him out, pushed him to seek help from Frank and even paid £1,000 with a hypnosis man called Dr Wald it didnt work!
One day he got very aggressive and angry and corned me in the corner and raised his hands to hit me. My 4 year old boy witnessed this and something just clicked in my head and I had enough I went to the police station.
I never called police on him this was the first time I done this so he would hit his rock bottom and wake up.
Social services were in my life. He attended his na appointments. Anyway I kicked him out it’s been 5 months.
He said he now wants to change 100%.
He is telling me he is clean but is still being a complete ass to me. Like when ever he visits us he just looks depressed and he blames me and says it’s my fault I kicked him out and I’m treating him like a toy.
He’s not as angry and aggressive like before but more depressed. So whether he is clean or not who knows. I’m thinking to make him do a test next time I see him.
I will never ever let him move into my household because I need to protect my children. He’s still abit angry and depressed man.
I love the peace in my mind and in my own space.
I’m on a stage now what do I do? Do I wait and see if he changes….and be by his side. Or do I just break the marriage. I still love him but I’m not happy and I don’t trust him I feel like when I was living with him was the biggest nightmare of my life.
He was so manipulative back when he was as on the drugs and even now still trying to manipulate me into me feeling guilty that he not with me.
But the truth stands I’ve woken up and realised what I will tolerate and what I want. And as a mother I will dare have social services come back to my life again. I felt so ashamed so degraded having social services come into my life. I’m a good hearted person my boys are excelling well at school I have a good job but my husband is the complete opposite because of this evil drug.
I pray that he leaves me alone and take responsibility because he keeps side tracking with false promises.
He just lies to me and trying to fool me into thinking that he is changing for me and the kids I just don’t believe it.
I’m so shocked to see so many women going through this with their husbands absolutely shocking.
I just want my husband to be kind, loving no lies and treat me with respect and give me peace and harmony in my life.
I think I’m dreaming.