Hi, I’ve had to come back on here as my son has been hitting it hard again! We know what you’re going through my husband calls our sons eyes the devil eyes! We know all the signs, his highs, lows, verbal abuse and his sleeping it off on a come down. Ours is nearly 35, back home with us after his cocaine abuse and gambling cost him his marriage. We’ve given up thousands of pounds and I mean thousands! He told me the other day that he’s used regularly for about 10 years and done things that would upset me. Our life has been hell for nearly 4 years since his wife asked him to leave and we’re always on edge. He had a flat on his own for 18 months but then couldn’t pay his rent each month so gave it up and moved in with his girlfriend who subsequently kicked him out because he is was selfish and lazy, not getting up until the middle of the afternoon, definite sign of using! He’s about to drop another bombshell tomorrow which I suspect he owes more money. He’s been to support groups but I think he’s too pigheaded and thinks he doesn’t need them. Every parent of a coke addict has the same story and there’s nothing we can do. We have listened to the promises and lies so many times and have unfortunately enabled him to our cost. I want to ask him to leave so that he hits rock bottom but I don’t know that that will be the best suggestion really. He’s lost his wife house, flat and girlfriend but thats not made him stop and he had a massive seizure in September in front of his little boy. It was so strong he broke 2 vertabrae in his back and bit his tongue so hard it swelled up like a piece of steak. The conclusion from the consultant was he needed to change his lifestyle but has he….. No. He still sees his 4 year old but for how much longer?? I pray for you and your son, this has to be the hardest thing ever for a mother to see her son destroying himself. ???? x
