Hi careaboutyou,
So here’s an update!
My wife screwed up big time and drank 1l of vodka in the local park on the way to pick up our son. She was discovered by locals passed out on the pavement with an empty pram. Police were called at the scene. Luckily this was on her way to Nursery so little man was safe, but put on the police record what a desperate situation it is.
I took advice, and decided to leave with my boy. I stayed in a hotel that night, and went to my family for a month immediately after. I have now had her leave the house, and I’ve returned with my boy (after lots of legal wrangling). Social services and CAFCASS are both involved, and I’ve been given the thumbs up that I’m acting in my son’s best interest.
I’m really bucking the trend here. There is gender bias in the system, and it would normally be me who leaves, but this is not fulfilling my duty of care as a father. Nor is it right. She is the one who needs to face consequences and face up to the situation she has created.
I filed for divorce last week, and have been stabilising the home situation for my boy. Now I just need to ensure she doesn’t bankrupt me in the divorce. But one step at a time.
I felt I needed to post an update here as there are many people going through this. It’s bloody hard. I hope to drop further updates with assurance that there is a path forward (especially for the father).
Cheers,
Somebloke