Oh I am so sorry you are going through the same.
It’s awful isn’t it. It’s just you know they aren’t being logical with their thinking, but you can’t help but feel guilt.
I agree that’s my thought process too, it has to be them that make the changes and it almost starts to become emotional blackmail/ manipulation. It’s not our fault. They need to want the change. I kept giving chance after chance living together and it hasn’t worked this long so why would it work this time? Unless there is actual change.
Stay strong! We can only hope they realise before it’s too late ????????????