[soph]

Your so right, its been a nice break with him not drinking the past week because I haven’t had the remarks, shouting and comments, having to stay silent in fear of being picked on. I am now getting the silent treatment though which I expected. I didnt know why we’d put up with it either until I read up on ‘trauma bonding’ and ‘cycle of abuse’ it opened up my eyes after 9 years of it, was worse in the first years and he didnt even drink as much! Dont get me wrong, Ive supported him so many times with his drinking and trying to help but its got to a point now where I know its always a circle but its like I say to his family, if I gave up on him he’d be on the streets.