Jinn54, it is very hard. My partner says horrible things to me as well but I know it is not him and that he is struggling. I feel guilted into giving him money for the stuff as well so that he doesn’t get his legs broken for owing people money. It’s a tricky one for me, do I buy it when he needs it or let him rack up debt which I will have to pay off anyway. Have you tried turning point for some support? I referred him to turning point and he is so far accepting the support so fingers crossed. How much is your partner using? Gives you a general idea of how bad the problem is?
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