Exactly. They are irrational and unfortunately yes they would be doing drugs/gambling etc etc less if they were with us but still doing it and it still very much being a problem.
The kids are the most important as we know but it doesn’t make it easy to turn our backs on them but it’s also the right thing to do until they are ready to accept help.
That will be good to book your partner into a rehab place. I would do that, but he wouldn’t go so there is no point as they want to have to want it! And unfortunately up until today mine is still lying. I nearly fell for it this week. Him saying he wants to see our little one and start seeing her everyday and having a routine again will help him etc etc. Then of course more lies, he wanted money for this then that etc etc. then when I didn’t give it, the final amount he asked for, he said went crazy. (Clearly not what he asked it for- he clearly needed it for drugs or gambling) he’s blown up my phone to me whole evening and same a-bit different day basically.