Hi Lse, just wanted to respond and say I totally know how you feel and have been in your situation. It’s so difficult and it makes me feel anxious even thinking back now….we had the find my phone thing on and I didn’t look until things started to happen that didn’t add up and then sure enough he kept not being where he said he was and then I worked out he was relapsing. My heart sank it’s the worst feeling isn’t it. I don’t know if you live together but I asked him to leave eventually and then maybe a month after that I turned the tracker thing off as he was then getting really paranoid on the crack and checking up on me all the time at work. Have to say I feel much better now it’s not on and I used to do his banking as well (he’s blocked me now) so it was like seeing it all happening with the money going out and then trips to pick up. Now I don’t know what he’s doing but I feel much less anxious, it made me feel ill – so I guess from my experience I would say trust your instincts, you don’t need a tracker to know when he’s doing drugs and lying to you. I did the testing too but he found a way to get round it and then I was secretly testing and they were all positive – I was going mad like a crazy detective woman and he was finding more and more inventive ways to lie, he deleted all call logs and texts but I saw a text as it came through when I was next to his phone saying fancy a smoke. Its understandable you want to help him, I was the same, but short of locking them in a room indefinitely it’s impossible to stop them and it will totally drain you trying to, it has to come from them, easier said than done when you love and care for someone though. Well done to you for getting away from the drugs yourself (think you said you used to be on them?) -How did you manage to stop? Make sure you look after yourself and don’t get dragged into it all x
