It is now just over two years since my father died, cutting my brother out of his will and leaving his share to my other brother, because I would not say that I wouldn’t give it to him. Since then my brother who I have looked after for fifty years, has turned against me, because he thinks that somehow it is my fault, even though I have lost money not benefitted. I could not believe after all that we had been through together that he could just turn on me because of money, it broke my heart. I decided to take action, got in touch with AdFam and had six online counselling sessions. It was the best thing I ever did and I wish that I had known about it years ago. I have learned that I must separate myself from him and set boundaries for myself. This I have done and also I have realised that he doesn’t really care about me, only if I can help him or supply him with money. Now that I have stopped doing things for him, I have not seen him for over six months! He speaks to my other brother, who feels guilty and gives him money! It is early days and I am sure that if he hits a crisis I will be the one he calls, but I am ready to set those boundaries again and if necessary cut him off altogether. It is easy in hindsight to say ‘I shouldn’t have done this or that’ but I did all that I did because he is my brother and I love him. However, I will not let him walk all over me and my family again, I will think about myself first.
