I feel for all on this post still suffering this crap. Let me tell you this.. 4 years later my (now ex) is still using, still trying to connect with me and nothing ever changes.
When this first all started, I called a drug help line. This is the advice the man gave me – “run as fast as you can in the opposite direction!’
At first I thought this was really bad advice, not sympathetic and not understanding where I was. It took me four years of complete and utter misery and hell to realise what I should’ve done from day one, listen to what that man told me.
You are only going to waste your life, time, energy and it is going to drag you down until you have NO self esteem, no sanity, no sense of worth and you are mentally and physically ill.. and you know what? The addict you care so much about won’t give one crap as long as he’s getting his junk and using.
Get it OUT of your life. Don’t be gas lit. Don’t accept it. Walk away and let them see what they’ve lost. It may be the wake up call they need. Or it may not. But put yourself first!