Hi Bar, I’m so sorry to read this. I am going through the EXACT same thing. My partner is the most amazing guy you could imagine when he is sober. Kind and fun. But when he drinks he is vile and abusive. I have recently found out he has squandered tens of thousands of pounds, and has been contacting escorts behind my back while drinking and using cocaine. I’m 6 months pregnant. It’s the most dire situation, and as the pregnancy progresses, so does his drinking. He is about to lose his job. I have decided to leave him, at least for the short term, as my physical heath is now deteriorating as a result of my mental health collapsing. It’s such a horrible disease. You are really not on your own. Do you know if he wants to help himself? Does he know that he has a problem? Is he in any kind of treatment programme? I’m worried that now I have left that my partner may have a break down. I do think that he needs to reach rock bottom in order to see how bad his problem is, but I’m worried that he might commit suicide. It’s all so very sad.
