Thank you Soph. Makes me sad when you say ‘get out now’ because i know you are absolutely right. And I have. All my things are moved out now. I am hoping that they’ll reach rock bottom and change his ways…if he doesn’t I’m afraid he might die. It’s so sad because he is such a lovely person. This has been going n for years and years, starting from when his Dad died. You definitely right to do what’s right for you and your children. Have you bee on the Prior website?
https://www.priorygroup.com/blog/the-dos-and-don-ts-of-dealing-with-an-alcoholic-partner
I found this to be quite helpful today. Not that I am with him anymore. But ‘not trying to reason or talk to them when they are drunk’ was pretty good advice x