Hi Navy
I’m great thanks and thanks for your kind words.
Yes I understand particular situations / dates / events can be traumatic but NEVER an excuse to use again. I’ve often thought what would I do if faced with especially difficult times. I’ve replayed certain times in my life when I might be tempted.
Truth is unless we deal with ourselves and stop blaming others or relying on their unconditional love we’re always at risk. This is where a deep dive is required of one’s psyche. My aim was not only to stop using cocaine and drink alcohol but it was also to question myself.
You have to look within you and question your own principles and values. You have to be strong enough to face whatever life throws at you. Sometimes we can be grief stricken which is normal but we have to deal with it.
Only you can decide how you love him and some behaviours can be forgiven given the circumstances. However by the same token he needs to deal with any traumas he has head on. Many of us carry our baggage around with us letting it effect our lives.
Not many of us decide to let it go and see the positive in such traumas. I don’t know the relationship between your hubby and his Father but could he not celebrate the good of the relationship he had with him?
Some might think I live in an ever present too positive a bubble, I say you’re scared to face the trauma head on.
We all have choices to make, how would his Father want him to behave?
Stay blessed Navy ????????