Hi MJDoubleU
Firstly it’s a lot you are having to manage and juggle, your family, your finances, your marriage and the addictions so don’t be hard on yourself for finding the enormity of this overwhelming. You’ve started to face this head on.
Secondly, Well done for finding this space and sharing.
I can only offer you my limited perspective on a few things. Your girls need you now and their home. They are no doubt looking at you as their dad for a magic wand which none of us have. can you find practical solutions so you can control the finances as that may give you a sense of your own control in providing security for your girls.
As a husband who loves his wife you want her to get help, which she has started to do, but it’s such early stages at the moment that it’s not something you can predict will or won’t work. Maybe you need to concentrate on you too, put your own oxygen mask on so you can help yourself think more clearly so you can find other steps to move forward with this.
Have you spoken to your girls, I’m not sure if they’re of that age, to see if having their mum home just now is right for them? As I said safeguard your childrens wellbeing and your own as that will allow you to be a better space to support your wife.
I am sorry to hear you and your girls are going through such an enormous thing. Maybe others wiser than me will reply and offer better guidance.
Best wishes