[gardenfence]

Hi Kulstar

I really appreciate your reply.

He never blamed me for his cocaine use he blamed me for creating the negative feelings he had about himself. He stored up over time a bank of things he perceived as negative words/actions from me and said my negativity towards him was why he ended the relationship. I saw his behaviour and mind set change and depression grow alongside his increased cocaine/alcohol use. To this day he will not see his cocaine/alcohol use as a contributory factor to his negative feelings and lack of communication as the issue.