Hi Gardenfence – I came across this post and saw your response, and wondering how you ended up handling it.. My partner had just ended relationship with me recently, saying he can’t be a partner right now, and he doesn’t know what he want. He had admitted that one of the reasons that he can’t be a partner right now is cocaine, but I don’t think he’s at the stage where he’s seeking help for his addiction, or even admitting that he has an addiction problem. I feel that deep down he’s ashamed of what he’s doing, but maybe he just didn’t want to admit it. I sometimes still send him messages trying to encourage him, and tell him that I will support him if he wants to seek help.
However I have the same struggle – don’t know if I’m helping or making things worse. I can’t agree more with what you said “It’s a fine line between being caring and supportive and then being viewed by them as the needy one, and them thinking it’s no wonder they ended the relationship with you. ”
If you don’t mind, can I ask what did you end up doing? And did you end up keeping in touch with your ex? I hope you’re doing better now XX