Dear mjdoubleu, It sadddens me greatly to hear your story and as a parent of a Ketamine addict, I totally hear and can resonate with you. I’m sorry you are going through this and totally understand how lack of sleep and anxiety and frustration and all the other emotions are hitting you like a tonne of bricks. Me too 🙁
Gardenfence, you have sound advice, I too thank you for the time you are taking to give advice, I will be listening myself to your kind words of wisdom and encouragement.
My son has ramped up thousands of pounds in debt, we are unsure to the exact extent as he too has lied over and over to us but deep down we know it’s huge. A friend shared a site that is helpful in organising debts out of control: https://www.stepchange.org/. My husband and I are not in total agreement with handling this situation atm. so it’s in the air so to speak.
I would rather see the ugly real and big picture with all the hard horrible facts to help me come to terms with what our son is battling with including the amount of debt to try to also understand the financial situation fully. My husband says our son is not in the right frame of mind to deal with this yet and to focus the battle of the Ket addiction first. I get what he is saying and know he’s right, however in my mind some of the Ketamine our son uses is to ‘get away from everything and not think about anything and take all the pain of everything away”. That to me says he’s worried financially and surely some of the weight of worry would be lifted if the finances were looked at in a helpful way. I don’t think our son will be truthful with it all. When he is ready I’m thinking of giving him the site, it is his problem, I do not want it as mine or ours! All this is just so tough! I hate what it’s doing to the whole family and the anger and the lies and the eggshells and the anxiety, the sleepless nights, the list is endless…
Wishing you all a good day ahead…small steps taken one bit at a time eh?