Hi Jinn54
Until he starts to take responsibility for his actions then there isn’t much you can do. You can only paint a picture (the carrot) of how life could be and it’s up to him whether or not he wants this picture to become reality. I had a vision going back over 2 years ago (before I stopped) of how life could be yet I found the pull of cocaine too strong and continued on this path until it was nearly too late.
This is where the stick came into it. My wifey had had enough and it appeared so had I. I’d had enough of the ups and downs, the highs and lows, the lying, the manipulation, the sneaking around.
Now in terms of the support this has to come with love and compassion to begin with but addicts will often misuse this to their own selfish advantage to carry on using. If they go on this path then the stick is the only option you’re left with. It’s up to them to see how badly they want to change.