<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>In response to Cocain Hell…….</p>
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<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>Your partner is making life a complete misery. H<span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>e desperately needs treatment in order to overcome his addictions.</span></p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>There appears to be a connection to the alcohol and drug addiction which your partner so desperately craves – and that is fear of taking responsibility.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>He makes a promise – such as an arrangement – but<span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”> when the time comes, he suddenly goes off and gets drunk/high on drugs. Because </span><span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>every time he makes a commitment, a mental wall confronts him and alcohol/drugs are his way of dealing with it.</span></p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>After a couple of days. Your partner takes it for granted that all will be forgiven and forgotten and life can resume as normal – until next time.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>There seems to be many broken promises in this relationship. The hotel booking just one of many.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”><span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>His anger stems from a reminder that you are an independent person and this creates fear that you could leave him….Another reason why he gets angry is the thought of you actually having friends outside of this relationship.</span></p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>When he goes missing, it’s a form of emotional blackmail to keep you constantly worried. His calling you only causes more distress – leaving you to think only of your partner and nothing else, whilst you wait for him to arrive home.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”><span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>Financially, you’ll incur debts such as the parking tickets due to him not being able to resist temptation to buy alcohol or drugs whenever he has money.</span></p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”><span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>Your partner’s paranoia and his belief that you only care about your friends may be part of his own life journey as well his selfish personality. The alcohol and drugs don’t help either…..</span></p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>A deeper understanding of his own lifelong issues could help towards seeking treatment for his addictions – if he really wants to.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>Another problem is the erratic, irresponsible behaviour he seems to display when drunk or high. The last thing you need…..Him coming home with a load of fireworks…..</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>Some people can be impulsive, yet never think of the consequences.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>Impulsive behaviour may occur when faced with situations they can’t handle. Perhaps your partner feels this way…..</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>Your partner needs professional help. Whether or not you want to save this relationship is a matter of your personal choice.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>Either way. He needs to seek help and is the only one who can do it.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>However. Let’s be fair and admit that whatever the outcome, your life will be affected by his decision – especially if he chooses not to seek help.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”><span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>It’s not just about going in for treatment and assuming he’ll be cured after a week or two. Your partner needs to address the underlying issues that cause his addictions.</span></p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”>To do this, some counselling to focus on his reluctance to take responsibility and commit to agreements such as events, dates or appointments. It’s trying to deal with these underlying issues to help overcome the addictions.</p>
<p style=”box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px;”><span style=”box-sizing: border-box;”>If he can’t commit to changing his ways, then look after yourself and accept this relationship is over.</span></p>
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