Hi Jenna, so sorry you’re going through this, such a shock to find out especially when you’ve not been married long. I guess things depend slightly on how much and how often he’s doing it and how long it’s been going on for – he may not be very open about that information though… there are positive stories on here but as you say a lot of bad ones too. I was in a similar situation to you, really wanted a baby and was maybe a bit blind to what was happening because of that – safe to say it hasn’t been an easy 5 years as things got a lot worse once I was pregnant – if I knew what I know now when I first found out he had a coke problem I would have split up with him straight away (except I could never think that cos of our son). But mine had a secret life long drug problem so hopefully that’s not the case for you and there’s s more positive outlook. Oh and I paid for therapy but turned out he spent the money on coke and didn’t go so that didn’t work too well! x
