Hey Jenna, hope you’re managing to enjoy your holiday! Hopefully good to spend some time together away from temptation…. it’s hard because you just don’t know if he is definitely telling you everything but I do know lots of people who’ve manage to nip it in the bud when it was mainly a weekend thing with some lifestyle changes and avoiding certain people/situations – if your husband’s really committed then hopefully he could do that – has he thought about going to Cocaine Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, there’s a lot of support on line.
Trust is the main thing for me – I managed to get some kind of trust back but then the last major relapse has kind of messed everything up really as I thought it was all fine and started to relax, only for it to happen again and worse than before – but I had given him lots of chances over 6 years before this and have lived a crazy roller coaster of drama for most of that time!
I’ve now said that he needs to go to NA meetings and make a real effort himself to prove to me he is putting in the hard work needed to change – that’s yet to happen but I’m hoping it will do one day although not feeling too optimistic at present. luckily we weren’t linked financially and it’s my house and I stopped giving him any money long ago! He’s meant to come and see me/his son but has missed the last two weekends so I’m assuming the worst x