Hi James,
I wanted to ask about the consciousness of addict’s decisions when they’re relapsing. My partner has admitted relapsing 3 times in the last 8 months or so. It’s likely he’s been using almost the entire time but he just didn’t want to admit it for long periods of time. I would constantly ask if he was okay or struggling as we were making huge decisions (buying a house with a big mortgage so I kept saying if you think this will be a problem you need to tell me and we can back out etc.), but he kept saying it was being sorted and he was fine. What I want to know is did he believe this was true and just lost control or was he lying to be able to keep using even though he knew it would come crashing down? I know I’m not an addict so it would be good to have it explained from that perspective?
Thank you x