Hi Tim, hope your good mate.
Actually that’s a great question and a good topic that I think is worth talking about.
I’ll be honest though, I don’t think I can give my opinion as strongly as I do on some other topics because I fall into the categorie of never would cheat, and not physically violent but If I’m honest I dont think there’s an addict out there that hasn’t at some point been verbally abusive to some extent at a point especially when for example trying to deflect guilt or blame when confronted and that includes me. I’ll give you my theories though.
The cheating thing, I think if we are honest, everyone has urges or fantasies or what ever you want to call it. I think that’s only natural as we are all human. For example you may fancy someone at work and think “I’d love to get with him/her” but would never act on it because you have strong morals and would never cheat but as we know with cocaine addiction alot of the time when using the drug causes a person to ignore their morals on order for them to be continuing on the first place. what that on mind I think it comes down to next is if you’re the kind of person who has it in them to cheat or not”. I think the cocaine can lower the resistance of a person’s morals but in order to actually go through with cheating surely they are prepared to take a harmless fantasy and turn it into reality. I do think people cheat when on cocaine who wouldn’t sober but those people wanted to cheat anyway but just couldn’t bring themselves to do it. I personally could never do it and no amount of gear (and believe me I used to get through it) would be able to sway me.
I think the same thing applies to physical violence. I don’t think doing cocaine makes a peaceful man violent. More that a person who would want to react to some things with violence but would resist due to their morals and conscience would be more likely to act in violence because the loss of those things when using.
Verbal abuse, obviously there are many forms of this but for me, I have said things to my partner that I can not believe have left my mouth when I was at my worst. Mostly when arguing and being confronted or questioned about drugs. I never meant any of the things I said and to be honest I don’t even know where they came from. It again comes back to the addition being in control of a person’s mind and body. The addict could never allow themselves to be the bad party so automatically as a defence mechanism the addiction takes control and fires back with abuse and sometimes disgusting things to hurt the person in front of them who is challenging them.
What’s your thoughts on it? Would like to know what everyone else thinks because this is a big topic when dealing with addiction
Stay strong everyone
James x