Seems like something went surly wrong with this comment I shall try again below 🙂
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>Hi James and other family members here,</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>This is my first time writing, in a desperate attempt to find a family / partners group and see what others might be going through, because none of my friends can ever understand this.</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>My partner has a cocaine addiction, even though sometimes he would not admit it.</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>He had a few relapses in the past months, some more difficult than others. </span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>We have not been together for too long and I am trying to find my way around this, as someone said here earlier- he is my soulmate when he is sober, but when the addiction takes over it is always a source of pain and agony.</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>I have made some good and bad decisions while trying to support him through binges, yet somehow they all felt like they were wrong. I am naturally a Self-sacrificing type person and I can not stand aside and watch him burn his life to the ground, but sometimes I fear I am also not setting enough boundaries – for him, for me, in the worry he might leave because I might be harsh.</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>The situation that usually unfolds is he will disappear for a couple of days, then while still high text me and apologize but then try to continue normal conversation- until he is able to sleep.</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”> I worry if I behave as if things are normal while he’s high – it’ll normalize the use , but if I decide to not allow normal conversation to continue- I demonize it and make him hide it from me.</span></p>
<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>
i hope this question makes sense and is not too broad, basically would love to hear how others have dealt with their partners during their binges.
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<p class=”p1″ style=”margin: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 17px; line-height: normal; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;”><span class=”s1″ style=”font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;”>Thank you for sharing, just reading through the forum here has been quite useful.</span></p>
J