My addict told me that I gave him an ultimatum – either he quit or I was leaving with our kids. The weird thing is that I don’t remember saying that – out loud. I remember feeling that and thinking about it to the point of even making a plan of how to get away from him. He did quit all those years ago, but I think it was more of a combination of several events that helped him do that.
My ultimatum after I finally confronted him after about 5 years what he was doing (coke – I didn’t know),
I told his parents,
his counselor that he was seeing died from a drug overdose,
his guilt/shame,
and probably he was just not wanting to do it anymore. It had run it’s course.
Keep quiting until you quit forever.