Pieter: Your post is heartbreaking. It’s awful what you have been through. You didn’t mention her name, so I’ll just call her She. She has her own situation going on that really doesn’t have anything to do with you and makes herself not really available for you. Try not to take it personally, she would probably be this way to anybody right now. The group support was a great idea and I hope you continue with it or try a new one. I’m gonna start with a new counselor next week. Some life events are just too overwhelming to get through without some help. People will fail you and let you down in your life. It happens to everybody, it happens from people that are closest to you that you would never expect. It is unrealistic to expect to go through your whole life and this to not happen. Unfortunately it is a part of life. Like your cat passing. When you are ready, maybe get another. I have two cats right now, but have lost four in the last 20 years. So sad when they pass, but I don’t regret having any of them. Sometimes life has to be just one moment at a time. Don’t look so far in the future. You found this place, which has been great for me. Hopefully it will be for you as well
