Hi,
I don’t have experience as the parent of an addict though I am the partner of one. I get frustrated at times as his parents have bailed him out his entire life, and he’s now in his 30s and relapsed again during the worst possible time, when we were buying a home and taking on big financial commitments. I feel like he’s never known the consequences of his actions as he’s never been homeless, never been without his car, and had literally thousands thrown at him to bounce back every time. It’s like he doesn’t have the same drive the rest of us have as there’s no fear, Mum will always get him out of the mess he’s put himself into, he’ll always have his car and a safe place to stay and endless rehab programs. But at the time time I acknowledge there’s no “right” way, and as parents they’ve done what they think was best to help their son.
To both of you, there’s forums on Famanon.co.uk with a lot of parents of addicts with great advice on there.
Wishing both of you all the best x