<p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi bellapop,</p>
Hope you’re doing okay, I’m sorry to read your story and you’re certainly not alone. I agree with fayzey, definitely look after yourself and talking about everything helps so much – it’s taken me almost a decade to talk to anyone about the stress and heartbreak of loving an addict, but I feel like a weight has been lifted since talking to someone about it.
My partner suffers with addiction and mental health issues and whilst I’m definitely no doctor have you considered he may be suffering with a personality disorder or similar? From what you’ve said it doesn’t seem like he’s of sound mind. The ‘controlling’ thing especially it sounds more than just cravings. I’m not justifying his behaviour in any way – it sounds horrific for you and your family.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Has he got any professional support apart from CA? CBT, or any mental health support? Is he even willing to have these things? I’ve recently come to the realisation that it’s too much to deal with on your own and professional support is there for them (and also you) – but for him, only if he wants it. It’s a tough subject to bring up, but it genuinely feels like a weight is off your shoulders when it’s not all on you to deal with any more.</p>
You’re such a strong person for holding the family together despite everything you’re going through. I hope it doesn’t take him long to see how lucky he is to have someone like you in his life.
<p style=”text-align: center;”>Stay strong and take care of yourself.</p>