Hi paw
ive just read your story, this must be so hard to go through. 3 years of being sober and him going back to it. You must be heart broken especially after all that commitment and him talking openly to you about it and how you both got through it together.
When I found out he promised he would stop, he didn’t, lied tried to hide it but got caught out, I left the house in tears, he rang me to come back home, I got back and we cried together he said he needs help and I said id support him, he never got help. I would encourage him, I would love him and supported him but he never got help, he lied to me.
I had to leave hardest decision of my life as I thought I’d never see him again. He said some awful things, threatened suicide to get me home but I didn’t go home, he then a couple of days later he started the conversation of how much he loves me I’m his life that he’s sorry. He said I could do meetings with him that we could pick the right help together he would do anything for me to come home.
I thought I had to try again to save my marriage of 15 years. I’m not sure I done the right thing. We are back in the same situation and I don’t know how to start the conversation going again without it being an argument.
I really hope paw that he keeps doing his meetings and gets stronger each day to fight this for himself and then for you and you can have some relationship with him that suits you both.
Sending you hugs xx