Hi Navy,
Has your man been attending CA or any treatment at all? It seems to be really important for them to have a good shot at this. Every time mines was falling off the wagon, meetings were suddenly not on the radar and nothing was mentioned. He’s never had a lot of friends as a lot of these were party friends only from his younger days and he said it’s made a massive difference to have a bunch of guys he can talk to about this, rather than just me or his parents who are both emotionally affected by what he’s done over the years.
Don’t be afraid to start the conversation. One of my biggest regrets over the last year was biting my tongue, telling myself I was just being paranoid when I had suspicions when I was right. It meant nothing was dealt with until a lot of damage was done. I got to the stage of being too afraid to even ask, as I didn’t want the answer. If we come through this, I don’t want to ever feel like that again.
And if you can’t stay with him, don’t feel bad about that either. You only get one life and addiction brings so much misery and hurt. I won’t ever apologise for trying to put myself first right now as I didn’t ask for any of this and I didn’t do anything wrong. Please don’t sacrifice yourself for him as he needs to save himself first x