Hi navy,
Hes only really been diagnosed with depression and anxiety up until now as he’s never been honest about his drug addiction with the gp. I think now along with talking about other behaviours he’s displayed there’ll be more to his diagnosis than just depression and anxiety.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>I don’t think it’s an excuse at all, I think in the past I’ve been telling myself it to justify his behaviour but realised no, it does not excuse his behaviour. I think him having a proper diagnosis will help to treat any behavioural issues though (hopefully!) and get the right specific support.</p>
It’s hard because he was emotionally abused by his parents and him and all his siblings suffer with severe mental health disorders and addiction so I know where its come from and I resent his parents for it. He’s never learned how to deal with his emotions properly so numbs them with drink and drugs and quite frankly acts like a young child when angry or upset – slamming doors, saying horrible things, or giving the silent treatment. It’s just not a healthy way for an adult to deal with their emotions so I hope the right support can help him learn a healthy way of dealing with that. My thinking is, those coping mechanisms are learnt behaviours so surely he can unlearn them/learn something new? I know it’ll be harder as an adult and take a long time, but if hes willing to accept the support it will happen eventually.
@m I feel you, I’m also SO SO angry at what drugs do to a person. I used to smoke weed every day until a couple of years ago and wouldn’t touch the stuff now or any other drug after seeing what it can do to a person. Well done for coming out the other side of an addiction, it’s not an easy thing to beat but is totally possible if the person is willing!
Stay strong all xx