Hi m, sorry I only just saw you other post too. For some reason I missed it when you posted!
You aren’t to blame to being pushed to your absolute limit, especially him acting ignorant about where he can get help. That would push my buttons too!
I’ve not heard of DBT until just now, thank you for that. I’ve just read up about it and it sounds like it would help him I’ll mention it to the Gp if they don’t mention it – worth a shot! I will keep you updated on the diagnosis.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>I haven’t had the thoughts about being replaced easily but I totally see where that comes from cos we’re not getting the attention and support we deserve from a relationship. I honestly think if I left he would fall apart and probably attempt to end it all again. He’s said that before too. Which is why I find it hard to understand why he won’t just get clean. For me, our pup and our future together as well as himself.</p>
The crime aspect you have to deal with sounds so horrible to deal with, I’m so lucky my partner can’t drive! Regardless of all the property damage he’s causing, He’s putting his and other people’s lives at risk.
The contradictory behaviour is so hard to understand. I try to empathise and be supportive but when you dont even know where you stand or what their peeved about it’s really difficult. Sometimes I wish that their behaviour was recorded and you could play it back to them when their level headed and see if they can see if from our perspective.
His family situation sound similar to my partner. Not having their family support is really difficult too. I know if I was ever going through something like this, I know my family would always have my back. Knowing that he doesn’t have the same is heartbreaking, and I think makes him slightly resentful of me for that. I get that feeling because he’ll make uncalled for comments about my family when he’s off his head.
I’ve only just opened up to my family about what were going through and they’ve been so unjudgemental and supportive about it all and I just wish I was able to speak to them about it sooner. Finding this forum has also really helped. I read through some posts a year or so ago but only started posting in the past couple of days and it feels good to speak to others going through similar things and understand the dilemmas we face on a daily basis.
We’re strong people who have given up our lives for the ones we love. I just hope our love and support pays off and our partners realise what they need to do to have a future with us.
Xx