Bellapop I really feel for you. I just read back on your posts.
u probably feel like ur life is hell wether he’s using or not right now and no clarity as to what’s driving the behaviours, what’s real what’s not.
when they make comments about life being boring it makes u feel u are not enough, I get it.
It seems maybe his awful behaviour sober may be that he feels he cannot cope with life sober and is resenting you for encouraging a sober life. These are his issues not yours and potentially his lack of being able to understand his own feelings. I could be way off the mark though.
have u tried talking to him about why his life sober is so boring?
sounds like possible underlying mental health issues.
Has he had trauma in his past?
Thinking of you xx