Hi m,
I think it has helped. My partner has been clean for 5 days now for the first time since he got addicted to opioids. He’s doing amazingly and doesn’t ever want to go back. Which is all very positive. It would have taken up to 6 months to get methadone treatment and then god knows how long on the treatment before being clean. Cold turkey isn’t advised, but it seemed the best option and has worked for him so far. He’ll still continue his biweekly appointments with the drug service and can now get the ball rolling with help from the NHS for mental health support.
I’m so sorry you’ve had a difficult time with your partner and all the anxiety he’s caused. It’s not fair on you to blame you for things you haven’t done one day and then be all loving the next day, it must be super confusing.
My partner has gone through the same with not wanting to let go and getting defensive but it was like a light bulb moment and now he doesn’t want to go back to the life of using. Hes realising life is much better without the drugs. I really hope your partner does the right thing for himself and you and admits he needs to stop using and life is better without the drugs. It will only end badly.
The hard thing is knowing and accepting that no matter what we say and do, only they can make the decision to stop. I really hope he comes to this conclusion soon. Recovery is much easier with a support network and if he keeps treating you this way, he’ll loose it.
Good luck with everything, you deserve happiness and to be appreciated by your other half.