Hi Jess,
Please know that you can’t help him – much as you might want to try. They have to help themselves and the thing is, there is help out there. There are CA meetings he can attend every single day if he really wants help. But it’s up to him and you will drive yourself into the ground trying to fix someone who isn’t ready to get help. I probably sound very harsh but my partner had a coke problem when we got together almost 6 years ago now – and even though I left him to get clean, which he did for years, he still then relapsed last year and with my support and giving him everything he’s ever wanted, he ran us into ground. If I could go back, I’d probably make very different choices and your relationship is only a year and a half in. You don’t have to ruin your life by standing by him.
You can’t stop your partner from wrecking his own life with this rubbish, but you can protect yourself, your life, and your sanity. Is this the life you want? He has choices, he can get the help. It sounds like he’s only using at weekends so far, if he’s being honest, and so he can stop this before it goes too far. But that’s up to him. If he knows he has a problem and wants to change, he can show you by going to CA meetings. But you focus on you and what you want. You’ll see lots of our stories are the same but the main advice of women who have dealt with this for years is telling the ones who can get out to run, as we know what you’ll be in for down the line. It’s horrible and I wish I could be more positive but this drug destroys them and turns them into someone you won’t even recognise x