I agree with M… the disappearing is a sign of heavy use but also if you disappear, you can do what you like without judgement from who you’re with. My man was always nipping out, be it to the shop, popping in to see someone, always an excuse to get out, when he was probably parked up somewhere taking cocaine alone. It’s a miserable existence for him as well as you, but the difference is he can fix it, but you can’t.
I re-read your post there and seen you’ve only been with him for a year and it doesn’t sound like it’s been the happiest year? I know there’s a lot of ladies on here who wish we could turn back the clock and run when we weren’t long into our relationships before committing to this life. Obviously what you do is up to you, but unless there’s something really special there worth saving, this might be a lot of stress you could do without x