Remember who you are and what you WANT. Instead of – What he did/does and how that mak s me feel.
This is what I tell myself when I feel overwhelmed. Do I WANT to be a mess all day – everyday (right now) because of this? No. I don’t WANT that.
(Your questions can be answered in my earlier posts – click on my user name). In all the years that I have been in love with my husband (almost 50 now), during the 5 years that he was actively using coke – he was a different person. A person that I did not know, a person that he didn’t know. He hasn’t been that – since he quit using coke. Read up on coke, how it is made and how it affects the body.