Wow 35 years, my hubby’s only on 18 months so very early days but yes I still feel I should run for the hills with all this affair and child, it’s a different kind of pain and hell, in addition I knew it wasn’t him and because he wanted the help I stuck with him and pushed for help, it was hell for all them years but we got there, but now I just don’t know how I feel and what to do. I just expected to get himbin recovery and work towards being us again but that’s never going to happen as this child has been thrown in the mix, our own children are 19, 16, and 10, my two older girls won’t talk to him and my 10 year old lad gets very jealous when he knows he’s going to see him it’s just awful, we’ve all been through his addiction and seen things no child should see and now they feel this 5 year old has got the best of him.
We do try and talk to him but he just says he can’t change his past, which we know but how do you explain that to children especially my youngest.
I’m now living a whole new nightmare, would you walk away as enough is enough? I’m sobbing all the time and I can’t function it’s just awful
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