Don’t feel guilty about doing the right thing. I’m a mum with an adult addict alcoholic son. It’s hell. We pray often some one will step in and take the burden from us because it’s so hard for a parent especially if we are ill, infirm, older…
Your brother is beyond having feelings for anyone now but himself, the drugs have numbed him out. Sadly it will take a major impact in his life for him to realise and hopefully change – or not. That’s his choice and no one has to live his lifestyle with him.
He’s endangered your poor mum and everyone in the family by his actions and he actually feels nothing towards caring by the sounds of it.
You have done an amazing thing. Get the right support for you and your mum.
He won’t starve, he won’t kill himself, although his lifestyle may ultimately do so. My son threatens all those things over and over if he doesn’t get what he wants, then he pleads, then he turns violent, etc etc. They play mind games because they know we care. It’s psychological torture.
Im starting to learn and I’m now walking away each time this happens because it will keep happening and it’s his life to manage and stop the cycle.
Cocaine robs a person of feelings. It is a demanding thing that causes extreme desire for more cocaine and nothing more.
Keep knowing you did the right thing and for your mom too. It’s hard to lose a child but living hell is not acceptable either and he was lost from the time he became addicted. He needs help yes, it’s an evil disease. But he has to chose that help and from the experts.
Youve done all you can. ????