Hi LS,
So sorry you’re going through this at this time that should be filled with happiness for you with your new baby.
This isn’t normal and you don’t have to stand by someone who is currently a danger to you and your newborn and who is taking no steps at all to change that. Please, talk to your mum and trusted friends about what is going on. Build up a support network so that you’re not alone in this. For a long time, I tried to believe that my partner was recovering and I didn’t tell anyone about what was going on to protect him. You don’t have to carry that burden yourself, you deserve help and support.
Addicts are also master liars and manipulators and I’m not sure you should believe that someone took out a loan in his name purely by stealing his wallet? His problem might be costing more money than you think.
You don’t need to take abuse. You don’t need to be miserable and upset and fearful of the future. He needs to get help, but you can’t force him to do that, he has to realise for himself. So the best thing you can do is to protect yourself and your baby and build your own life back, try and find your own peace. It’s so hard and scary but you deserve better than what you have right now x