Hi brokenmum,
I’m so sorry you’re going through this but please know you’re doing the right thing. My partners parents have saved him on so many occasions now, and at the age of 34 he’s had periods of sobriety but when he messes up he takes down everyone around him. He even stole money from our joint account after he was meant to be in recovery, saying he knew his Mum was putting money in to cover the mortgage that month. She’s continuing to help pay off his debts while I’m left in financial turmoil because of having to cover most expenses on my own. I spoke to my friend about the situation and she said “how will he learn?!”. And she’s right.
Please post on the forums on Famanon.co.uk, there’s loads of lovely ladies there who are parents of addicts and they’ll be a great support x