Hi Lynsey,
Thank you for replying. It’s lovely to hear both you and your wife made it through and you’re doing well!
Unless he had a stash of money somewhere, which is I guess is possible, I don’t think he can fund anything at the moment. He can’t get any more loans due to his credit rating and has no income. He also still owes his dealer money, which really worries me as they know where we live and I don’t want them rocking up.
When our eldest was 8 weeks old ( she’s nearly 5 now) we separated briefly as he was going out drinking, staying out until 6am, probably taking drugs and had been accused of being unfaithful. I forgave and we rebuilt, and now this, ???? I am unsure how much one person can take.
I just want happiness, stability and security for me and my children and he isn’t providing that at the moment. I very much care for him and want him to be well. Myself and my family have tried to support him the best we can, I have sought advice but whatever I try to do to help has little impact without him also wanting to help himself. He has no other family, we are all he has. He makes me feel like I am abandoning him, that I should want to work to keep our family together, when he in fact is doing very little from his side. I have more or less looked after our children single handed-lie for the last few years.
Most of our bills are in my name, meaning if they can’t be paid it will be my future that is affected, my ability to get a mortgage moving forward etc.
Its so tough because I do care, I don’t want to abandon him, but I want to look after myself ????