Hi ladies, I hope you’re both okay.
To answer your question simply, Yes. You can be addicted to a substance (or anything infact) without it being every day. There is a common misconception that a drug addict is someone who is daily using and often a down and out type person but I can assure you addicts and particularly cocaine addicts come from all walks of life and can range from doctors and successful business owners to the scaffolds and builders who are in the pub at 3pm everyday after their graft.
I would guess the reason why your partner says he doesn’t have a problem or addiction yet is because he hasn’t yet come to the point where the negative effects of cochineal addiction have effected him enough that he has wanted to stop and realised that he can’t. Bare in mind no one ever sets out with the intention of becoming an addict and always starts out as harmless fun can very easily turn into fun-less harm.
Cocaine use in relationships can be a very hard thing to manage because often the user will have a completely different view of their situation than their partner. The partner of the user may be concerned about their use as someone who doesn’t do it themselves and is fully aware of the fact it is illegal and can also easily become a problem and does not want their loved one to continue using. Whilst the user will normally not see it as a big deal and will protest that it isn’t an issue.
I’m not here to say that your partner will end up facing the problem full blown addiction brings but I for one wish I could go back in time to when I still had a choice and tell myself about the harsh reality of what I was doing. Equally this forum will tell you everything you need to know about the pain of being a long tm partner of someone who uses.
As hard as it is, (and my opinion on this has changed over the past few years) I belive now that if you are not happy with your partner doing drugs and they are not willing to stop then the ealier you remove yourself from the situation the better. For 1, if a person respects you and your wishes for them to stop they should act on them and at least try to make changes. Of they do then please do everything you can to support them as no one who has not experienced addiction will ever understand how hard it is to get sober but the second reason is that if your partner continues to use, the damage to them, you and your relationship will only build.
I hope your partner is strong enough to step away from the gear and please do everything you can to support him but the most important thing you need to do is safeguard yourself and mak sure that your needs and happiness is your number 1 priority.
Feel free to ask me anything or even read back some of my old posts as I don’t get as much time to come on here these days.
All the best
James x