Hello. this is my first time on this site. Your post resonated with me so much. My adult son is smoking weed every day (which I have just given into) and has had numerous issues with alcohol. I am constantly on edge, worried and anxious worrying what is going to happen next. Does you son work? I am single so deal with this on my own, and I totally understand how awful this is making you feel and what it is doing to your family. I am constantly trying to find help for my son but unless he is willing to change there is little point. I try to talk to him to explain that he does need help and sometimes he agrees, but most of the time just says he is fine. I have realised now that there are so many young people with these problems and so many families looking for help. I am just not sure if the help is there. I find that just talking to someone helps sometimes. I know I am being a coward by not trying to stop him smoking but at least when he does that he isn’t angry and violent (like he is when he drinks). I am happy to chat at any time, don’t have any great words of wisdom but am happy to listen