<p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi Poppy ,</p>
this was also my experience. I have two small children aged 4 and 6. My husband always dabbled in it seems when he was younger ( only realised how much once it was too late ). Dec 2020 I found out he had been gambling , using 1-3 grams a day of coke and was sinking his business and our finances fast . He promised me for 18 months he was stopping doing it , he went to a rehab assessment once but never returned and then he began disappearing for days at a time (4/5) using in hotels spending money to stay away and just hold himself up this went on for about 9 months – whilst I tried to hold my job down and floundered running the house and bringing up the children . When he did return he would sleep all day and stopped going to work ( his own business too which was frightening as he was the bread winner Also). He stopped showing interest in our children , me everything that he once loved and enjoyed he lied and swerved to do what he was doing . Fast forward to Aug 22, I had to call it a day – for the sake of my kids, I reached a really dark place and knew I’d done all to help him . I felt too like I had abandoned him and sometimes the guilt washes over me intermittently , but I had to think of myself and our children .
We sold the family home and I left with our kids.
more then a year later – within our 4 walls me and the children are now content and happy . But my now ex husband still hasn’t hit rock bottom yet . He’s in so much money trouble , sleeps still all day , but the lies and manipulation and volatile behaviour towards me is really bad – worse than ever before . I’ve tried to steer a safe relationship for him to see the children( I know how much he worshipped them before he started this path ) but he’s recently started to not care and use when he’s due to have them, tests positive and then turns aggressive so I have to keep them away and breaking their hearts at the time but I have to safeguard them .
Only you can decide poppy – but bottom line – it’s self preservation. Whatever you decide isn’t going to be easy , maybe one day he will admit he has a problem and sort it out . But for the sake of your sanity and children’s happiness please think carefully . Sending hugs and strength – cause it’s the merry go round of hell . Lots of love x